I completed a workshop in Matrix Birth Reimprinting (MBR) with its creator Sharon King in October 2010 in Cork, Ireland. MBR uses EFT to help resolve trauma at any stage during pregnancy and birth and its effects later in life. How a woman is looked after, and respected during pregnancy and birth, or not as the case may be, has a huge impact on her and her baby.
There's a saying that time heals all wounds, but in my experience it doesn't. And the issue of time passing only serves to shame traumatised people even further. The old attitude of 'Are you not over it yet?' is still very prevalent. Unresolved trauma stays in our nervous system for a lifetime, causing havoc, until we heal it.
There is also growing research about the effects of intergenerational trauma and the many different ways it shows up in families and societies but it's not always recognised as unresolved trauma, so it goes untreated and unhealed.
I am passionate about the subject of trauma, and birth trauma in particular has come to mean a lot to me personally as I had my son in 2012 by emergency caesarean. I did everything I could to avoid that, having fought for a homebirth and having secured one at 35 weeks only to then be transferred to obstetric care. Without going into too much detail, the last six weeks of my pregnancy and the birth were extremely traumatic.
What I do know is that birth practices need to change the world over. Too many health care providers are flying in the face of best practice and research by abusing, bullying and coercing women during pregnancy and birth. And they get away with it to a large extent. If mothers are stressed, their babies will also be stressed.